We are a developing nation, as is evident from the GDP figures the government releases every year. While the living standard is improving, the number of middle-class and affluent Indians is growing every year, we should stop and think about the condition of Indian women. For most of them, it is an eternal struggle with masculine ego, even to the extent of domestic violence. Even today, some Indian women lead a life which they do not deserve. For example, alcohol abuse cases touch new statistics every day.
One such brutal case of Alcohol Abuse is that of a 28 years old domestic servant Kavita Tapkir. Her husband, 32 year old Suryakant Londhe used to return in inebriated condition every night, physically assaulting her. Furthermore, he also indulged into barbaric practices of feeding her forcefully and throwing food at her when she refused to eat. Nights scared her as the torture started becoming unbearable. Valiantly fighting this torturous marriage, Kavita now is an independent woman who earns her living by working as a cook or a domestic servant in households and by making soft toys and rangolis.Putting an end to this niggling pain haunting her she advices other women who go through the same trauma that they should become independent and look out for themselves irrespective of them getting support from the family.
Regrettably such Kavitas are very few as most of the women still face the brunt of physical abuse gagged by the fear of denunciation by the society. However, it has to be considered that if one culprit is overlooked it instigates few more like him to indulge into acts of the similar nature. Thus, it is prudent that women stand up for themselves and their rights; as such a feat on their part would give potency to few more who would raise their voices against injustice.
Psychology of the perpetrators
Amod Borkar, a Clinical Psychiatrist states Alcohol dissolves man’s conscience. Conscience according to medical terms is said to be the bridge between conscious and the subconscious mind. He further states that it is not just the alcohol, but also the violent streak in the perpetrators sub conscious which lead them to indulge into sadistic activities. The conditioning of a person’s mind happens in the age group from 18-22 years. The environment in which he grows has a lion’s stake in shaping his/her mind set. However if he/she come in contact of drug experimentation, sex, perilous activities during these years, it can act as spoilers in their mental development.
More often than not it is believed that such cases of alcohol triggered domestic violence are restricted just to the downtrodden section of the society. Conversely, it is as common in the ‘educated’ elites as in this poverty ridden section of the society. Plenty such cases of alcohol triggered domestic violence were observed to perpetrated by the techies during the time of recession. The high stress levels coupled with faulty coping mechanisms led them to indulge into drugs and alcohol which gives pseudo relaxation almost immediately. The subjugated atleast break the so called shackles of honor and raise their voices against this cruelty, however the elites muffle these cases as they are believed to be a stain on their reputation.
Ralegan Siddhi Story
Anna’s model village, recently a media epicenter is nationally acclaimed as an alcohol free village. This village, which earlier was reeling under the heavy load of domestic violence, was freed from this ill by a handful of villagers with Anna Hazare as their leader. The god fearing natives were made to swear in front of the temple against touching alcohol by Anna and his supporters a few years ago. Nanibai Vitthal, a native of Ralegan Siddhi recalls how drunkards were tied to a pole and flogged. However she did not deny the possibility of villagers going out of the town to drink which was seconded by Vitthal Bhau Pote who said some of the villagers still escape the harsh punishment if they escape unnoticed.
Lust and Corruption
Positive thinking and good conduct have always had a favorable impact on one’s mind, body and our society as a whole. However, we have lost ourselves amidst the plethora of activities and competition surrounding us. Whether as an entrepreneur or an executive, precious time is engaged to set continually expanding targets and devising new strategies to achieve them. Majority of the strategies are geared towards creating demand for the next generation of the product that was probably unsought after to begin with. Joining the bandwagon are the myriad financial institutions who promise to “help” you to fulfill “the dream” that was thrust upon you. Luxuries are inching towards the commodity space and this overlap has re-defined the social strata. This ideology has percolated from the urban regions to even the remotest rural society. The traditional lifestyle, thought process, etiquette, mutual social and human interaction has been replaced by a dichotomy of the “bestowed”, thus elevated and “deprived”, hence dejected. The “deprived” constantly strive to merge into the “bestowed” without realizing the fear of being dislodged faced by them.
Can Anna’s model of Lokpal check the corruption fuelled by this never ending greed embedded in the mind of each and every member of the so-called civilized and modern society. We are talking about fighting corruption through Anna Hazare’s model of a Lokayukta. Though, the common masses are optimistic about the Jan Lokpal Bill, a corruption free society cannot emerge from within a discontented one. The concept of possessive individualism as a result of neo –liberal economy or capitalist developmental strategy in India lies at the root of all pervading corruption in our society. More than that the, social assessment and acceptance of a person on the basis of money and power ought to be replaced by his simplicity, honesty, sacrifice, hard work and commitment towards community service. Collectivism must prevail over individualism and hence form a derivative for contentment, peace and happiness.